Stay Focused On Your Divorce Goals; Don’t Forget About Your Core Values

January 07, 2020

I’m not going to tell you that you have to be the “nice guy,” during your divorce.

It can be very hard when you come to the realization that your divorce IS happening.  One of the keys, in this situation, is to focus on making a plan and then turn that plan into action.  Having supports during this time is very important, as is staying “connected,” with those supporters.  They are there to help you, and hold you accountable.  Achieve your “divorce goals.”

You should have a plan, from that plan you’ll have deadlines, from those deadlines, you’ll have tasks.

Go Get It Done!

There will be “bumps in the road.”  I’ve been there.  There are always changes and challenges as we move through our daily routines. This isn’t going to change now that you’re going through a divorce too. However, these challenges are merely opportunities for you to be successful.

Is it the random accusation of being (a) drunk, is it that you’re just a bad person, is it a credit card fraud, maybe it’s an IRS audit; no matter the challenge, as long as you stay focused on your Goals and Objectives and stick to your Core Values you will be able to successfully adapt to these changes and challenges and overcome each and every one of them.

My biggest piece of advice on dealing with these “bumps,” however, is to have a therapist, a pastor, a close friend, or a confidant to whom you can talk.  If you don’t have these, or need more support, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me, you don’t have to be alone.  I’ll be there for you and help you achieve your divorce goals.

By Scott D.

I'm a lot of things, to a lot of different people. But, most importantly, I'm a dad who's gone through a long & contentious divorce. I'm familiar with the process, the good & the bad; and I'm here to help you get through yours.

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