There are many different aspects to divorce coaching. In addition, there are many different styles of coaching. No matter whom you choose to help you as your coach you need to make sure that they fit with you and what you need to be successful.
What A Divorce Coach Can Do For You
- Respect your feelings of grief and anger over the many losses that result from your divorce.
- Assist you in finding appropriate sources of emotional support to replace ones you have lost.
- Help you to understand how to reduce your anxiety and stress as you make decisions about your future.
- Assist you in managing the strong emotions that are a natural part of this process.
- Help you to understand the other partner’s outlook on an issue even if you don’t agree with it.
- Identify what each of you does that triggers the other to react negatively.
Legal Process Issues
- Help you to interview and hire an attorney who is best suited for your case and your specific needs.
- Explain and discuss the many process options (collaborative law, mediation, private mediation, litigation) available from a perspective that doesn’t seem as intimidating as when you hear them from an attorney.
- Clarify and articulate to your spouse and attorney the personal goals and value you want reflected in the divorce settlement.
- Help you to stay accountable to the goals you have set for your future and that of your children.
- Help you to stay focused on working toward win-win solutions, both short and long term.
- Assist you to learn how to communicate with your ex-spouse and now co-parent in the best interests of your children.
- Help to create a foundation for co-parenting that enables you to act in the best interests of your children.
- Help to negotiate terms of your co-parenting plan both during the divorce and in later years as needs change.
Yes, of course some of these things overlap with what your attorney does, however, when working with a coach as well it helps you to stay focused and on track, even when other things in your life try and knock you off course.